Every human being wants to be liked by others. We humans need the love and acceptance of others even to live. We tend to see all kinds of experiences rather in a negative light and often the reason why a society does not accept us is a wrong perception and interpretation of our personality.

The fact that people tend to take things rather negatively arises from the natural need to recognise potential dangers at an early stage. When the desire to be accepted into a group clashes with the negative tendency, self-perception is systematically destroyed and self-esteem is attacked.

In a group of people, one tends to focus on the one from whom one feels rejection. This rejection, whether justified or not, seems to be further proof that you don't fit into society or a certain group. 

Let's try to see things from the perspective of the person who supposedly rejects us. The most likely theory for this negative attitude is that this person sees you as a potential danger.

What actually happened in this situation is the other side of the same survival mechanism that leads us to interpret the other person's behaviour as rejection. By nature, a person not only sees things negatively, but is also not or only rarely able to see a situation from another person's perspective. This is why we interpret certain behaviour as social rejection without realising our own social power, namely that we ourselves could be a potential threat to others. 

There are always people you simply don't get on with because your characters don't fit together. However, it is usually the case that you see yourself as weak and stupid, while you actually appear threateningly strong and intelligent to others. The inability to recognise this social paradox makes interpersonal relationships difficult or even impossible.

Firstly, you need to realise that a society or group of people is rarely united against you and leave room for an alternative interpretation. If you recognise how you may appear to other people, you can begin to develop an understanding for the rejection. This moves us from a self-centred perspective to an ethnocentric view, which immediately makes us appear less threatening in the eyes of others and therefore more likeable. People are generally not rejected in a society because they are too weak, too insecure or too stupid, but because they make exactly the opposite impression. 

In order to be accepted in a group, you have to detach yourself from your own world and learn to develop sensitivity and understanding for others. The more you venture out of your corner of self-centredness towards others, the less they will see you as a danger and therefore the less likely they are to develop an aversion.