In life there is always movement in some direction, even when you feel like you are standing still, you are either on a positive momentum wave or a negative downward spiral. 

How does the downward spiral arise

It often only takes one negative trigger. This is enough to steer your thoughts in a negative direction. In this phase, you mainly perceive the negative things in life and have no view of the positive. Therefore, it seems to you that everything is going wrong and that you only have bad luck. 

The more you think that everything will go wrong, the more negative your thoughts become and the more you concentrate on exactly these things. This is how negativity gets momentum, which builds up disproportionately more and more.

How do I become positive

If we take the principle of the downward spiral, one can logically transform it into an upward spiral. Unfortunately, since we humans are naturally inclined to pessimism, it is much harder to find that positive wave and use its momentum. As soon as something positive happens to us, we tend to be cautious and expect the negative compensation for the little bit of happiness. Because we wait for something negative, we find it quickly, because everyday life is full of small positive and negative incidents.

The trick is to recognise positives as easily as negatives. Then you have to dare to believe in your lucky streak and learn to let it carry you along.

So the next time you have a particularly beautiful experience, focus all your concentration on enjoying and savouring this feeling of happiness.

Don't pay attention to small negative things along the way. Just leave them on the left and continue to ride the positive wave. It takes a little practice, but you will learn to suddenly recognise only positive things and to rejoice in them in such a way that your feeling of happiness builds up.

The feeling of happiness can be increased just as disproportionately as the negative, it is only up to your control. You hold the rudder in your hand!