Sometimes one stands in one's own way the most in order to achieve the goal one has set for oneself. You have desires and want to achieve good results, but too often the desire to achieve a certain goal becomes an obsession; then you lose the fun of it and develop a negative attitude.

Do not put yourself under pressure

You should continue to strive for achievement and work towards personal excellence, but only as long as it is fun to get there. If you put too much pressure on yourself to perform and have too high expectations of yourself, you will only create stress, tension and frustration. Any form of negative influence will have the opposite effect and performance will drop. 

If you try too hard to achieve something, you become desperate and dogged. Doggedness prevents you from achieving your desired success and makes you even more frustrated when you don't achieve what you wanted to achieve.

Better chance of success

You can greatly improve your chances of achieving the success you seek by doing your absolute best, but taking away the importance and significance of the outcome. Do not make your life and satisfaction dependent on achieving a perfect result. Look for a balanced inner attitude where you wish to excel yourself but still enjoy what you are doing. 

Do your best, but also allow yourself the possibility of occasionally not succeeding. See failure as an opportunity to improve in the future.

Positive attitude of expectation

Much of life depends solely on your expectations, both positive and negative. If you stake all your happiness on success in a certain situation, you will crumble inside when things don't go as expected. Your thoughts and feelings not only affect how you feel afterwards, they also have a great influence on your performance. The less you depend on success, the more relaxed you can be in your pursuit of it, and the more likely you are to achieve what you wanted.

A negative attitude, where you put everything on a win and see failure as failure, makes you tense inside and tends to prevent you from performing to your full potential.