Break up, but without a fight. This way you can part from your partner peacefully.

• Confirm for yourself that the relationship is indeed over. Be clear about your feelings and make a clear decision to end the relationship or not.

  

• Once you have decided to break up with your partner, there is no point in delaying the inevitable. The next step to breaking up is to think about where and how.

• You should break the news yourself. In any case, avoid letting a third party talk to your partner about the planned separation first, even if only by accident.

• Find a quiet place where you can be in private with your partner.

• Choose a favourable time when you can both talk calmly and reasonably and without time pressure. Under no circumstances should you state your intention in the middle of a heated argument.

• Show that you have thought about the decision carefully, be decisive and honest. Help your partner to understand your decision. Be tactful.

• Remind your partner that you will not forget the good things about his/her personality and your relationship, but emphasise that you are ready for a new phase in your life.

• Give your partner the opportunity to clarify open questions so that you can both draw a clean line.

• As you both make plans for your separate futures, be positive.

• Important: Don't let your partner manipulate you if they don't agree with the separation. Be firm in your decision.