Extroverts tend to constantly drag the quieter introverts to parties and persuade them to join in any social activities. The introverts, however, like to spend time with themselves, so if they politely decline, it is automatically assumed that something is wrong, so they keep asking. This in turn makes introverts feel uncomfortable. The whole thing is just a normal misunderstanding. For extroverts, the only explanation of introverts' withdrawal is that they are shy and unsociable.<\/p>\n
But the fact is that both simply tick differently. There is no wrong or right. An introvert is simply motivated and stimulated by other parts of the brain.<\/p>\n
A typical misunderstanding during a party is, for example, when an introvert temporarily withdraws mentally into himself because he needs a break, an extrovert misinterprets the serious (in reality just relaxed) facial expression and makes a casual remark meant as encouragement, such as \"have a laugh\"...The introvert then becomes aware that he makes a 'bad' impression to the outside world and feels excluded.<\/p>\n
A well-intentioned pep talk spoils the other person's party and self-esteem.<\/p>\n
Introverts often don't like 'small talk'.<\/strong><\/h3>\nIf you want to have a longer conversation with an introvert, don't bother with superficial small talk. Introverts are more inclined to have deep conversations if the topic is one that interests them. They like to debate and philosophise and try to understand and interpret their counterpart exactly. They see small talk as a waste of time, unless their conversation partner is still a stranger to them.<\/p>\n
It is in the nature of being shy to think first, then talk. Introverts don't babble away just to keep the conversation going. They talk when they have something to say. Unfortunately, this trait is very often misunderstood and mistaken for arrogance. Being shy is thinking carefully about what you say beforehand.<\/p>\n
At school, being shy or introverted is punished and being extroverted is rewarded. The one who constantly has his finger up and talks stupidly gets better grades than the one who only speaks up when he has a meaningful contribution to make. Teachers and parents try to change the student because he is behaving \"wrongly\". Very few teachers are able to distinguish between dazzlers and truly good students. They only form a superficial picture. As for the parents, understanding should be shown here. Understanding that their child has a different perspective on life and society, that he has the same 'value' as his extroverted classmates. You must not want to change introverts, because that would make them deny themselves. You can't just turn off being shy.<\/p>\n
Introverts like to be in company, but in a different form and less often.<\/strong><\/h3>\nIntroverts can do many things just as well as extroverts are naturals at and enjoy them just as much. They can give good speeches, be the life of the party, be charming and entertaining - but only for a certain amount of time. After that, they want to have time for themselves. For them it is a question of intensity, they live the moment when they are in a particularly good mood and briefly 'get out of themselves' with special intensity, they live on this moment for a long time, but it consumes a lot of energy. When they are alone with themselves, they can enjoy this moment for a while longer, while they feel unobserved and safe. This leads us to the next point:<\/p>\n
Introverts need time to recharge their batteries.<\/strong><\/h3>\nThey often withdraw because they need time alone. They need this time like food to live. They are neither depressed nor sad, they just need time to 'recharge'. Give them their time and space, it is natural for them.<\/p>\n
Introverts have good (possibly better) people skills.<\/strong><\/h3>\nIn today's society, it is seen as vital to come out of one's shell and use 'elbowing' to gain an advantage. This is an ancient survival instinct, and being shy doesn't fit into it.<\/p>\n
We think we have evolved so far from the primates, but we still rely on our oldest instincts. You would think that by now, with our intelligence, we would be able to let introverts and extroverts live side by side in parallel and in understanding of each other and let each person be what they are, not what society demands them to be.<\/p>\n
But because so much emphasis is placed on extroversion, introverts often feel in a bind.<\/p>\n
Should they remain true to themselves and thus risk social ostracism, or should they conform and pretend to be extroverted just to fit into society?<\/p>\n
There are a lot of pioneers in human history who were introverts. Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin and Isaac Newton are just a few of them.<\/p>\n
Introverts have talents that extroverts can only dream of, because while the extrovert is busy being the centre of attention somewhere, the introvert, as a quiet observer, has time to deal with his surroundings, to analyse them. He quickly grasps the character of his counterpart because he is excellent at reading body language. He is an exceptionally good listener and can put himself in another's shoes very well. Because he is not easily distracted by superficialities, he can concentrate very well and observes things that most people miss.<\/p>\n
Why it is good to be an introvert<\/a><\/p>\n
Introverts can do many things just as well as extroverts are naturals at and enjoy them just as much. They can give good speeches, be the life of the party, be charming and entertaining - but only for a certain amount of time. After that, they want to have time for themselves. For them it is a question of intensity, they live the moment when they are in a particularly good mood and briefly 'get out of themselves' with special intensity, they live on this moment for a long time, but it consumes a lot of energy. When they are alone with themselves, they can enjoy this moment for a while longer, while they feel unobserved and safe. This leads us to the next point:<\/p>\n
Introverts need time to recharge their batteries.<\/strong><\/h3>\nThey often withdraw because they need time alone. They need this time like food to live. They are neither depressed nor sad, they just need time to 'recharge'. Give them their time and space, it is natural for them.<\/p>\n
Introverts have good (possibly better) people skills.<\/strong><\/h3>\nIn today's society, it is seen as vital to come out of one's shell and use 'elbowing' to gain an advantage. This is an ancient survival instinct, and being shy doesn't fit into it.<\/p>\n
We think we have evolved so far from the primates, but we still rely on our oldest instincts. You would think that by now, with our intelligence, we would be able to let introverts and extroverts live side by side in parallel and in understanding of each other and let each person be what they are, not what society demands them to be.<\/p>\n
But because so much emphasis is placed on extroversion, introverts often feel in a bind.<\/p>\n
Should they remain true to themselves and thus risk social ostracism, or should they conform and pretend to be extroverted just to fit into society?<\/p>\n
There are a lot of pioneers in human history who were introverts. Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin and Isaac Newton are just a few of them.<\/p>\n
Introverts have talents that extroverts can only dream of, because while the extrovert is busy being the centre of attention somewhere, the introvert, as a quiet observer, has time to deal with his surroundings, to analyse them. He quickly grasps the character of his counterpart because he is excellent at reading body language. He is an exceptionally good listener and can put himself in another's shoes very well. Because he is not easily distracted by superficialities, he can concentrate very well and observes things that most people miss.<\/p>\n
Why it is good to be an introvert<\/a><\/p>\n
In today's society, it is seen as vital to come out of one's shell and use 'elbowing' to gain an advantage. This is an ancient survival instinct, and being shy doesn't fit into it.<\/p>\n
We think we have evolved so far from the primates, but we still rely on our oldest instincts. You would think that by now, with our intelligence, we would be able to let introverts and extroverts live side by side in parallel and in understanding of each other and let each person be what they are, not what society demands them to be.<\/p>\n
But because so much emphasis is placed on extroversion, introverts often feel in a bind.<\/p>\n
Should they remain true to themselves and thus risk social ostracism, or should they conform and pretend to be extroverted just to fit into society?<\/p>\n
There are a lot of pioneers in human history who were introverts. Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin and Isaac Newton are just a few of them.<\/p>\n
Introverts have talents that extroverts can only dream of, because while the extrovert is busy being the centre of attention somewhere, the introvert, as a quiet observer, has time to deal with his surroundings, to analyse them. He quickly grasps the character of his counterpart because he is excellent at reading body language. He is an exceptionally good listener and can put himself in another's shoes very well. Because he is not easily distracted by superficialities, he can concentrate very well and observes things that most people miss.<\/p>\n
Why it is good to be an introvert<\/a><\/p>\n
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