If a girl is with a loser, this will eventually lead to exploitation and an unhappy relationship. Even real losers can put on a great front when they want to please a girl, which is why it makes sense for parents to recognise a potential loser in order to protect their daughter.

 

Losers often show aggressive behaviour to cover up their own inability. Sometimes the hidden aggression shows through small tell-tale signs. You can pay attention to how often he speaks in a loud voice to get his way or how he treats a pet. An aggressive person tends to be rough and has little patience for animals.

How does he speak to the girl? Does he try to dominate or does he respect her opinion? No-good guys try to undermine their partner's self-esteem so that they don't run away from them. They give their partners the feeling that they are lucky to be with them. A dangerous sign is when he forces his girlfriend to cut off contact with her friends. When they live together, he always answers the phone to check who she is talking to. She is not allowed to meet with her friends alone, or only rarely, because he wants to keep an eye on her. In this way, he cuts off moral support for the girl so that she is dependent on him alone.

Much can be learnt from a personal conversation with him. How does he talk about his family, his expectations and dreams? The way he answers the questions usually shows what kind of person he is. Sometimes he cannot maintain his mask over a longer period of time and shows small outbursts of impatience, rudeness or even aggression.

The opinions of the girlfriends are also interesting. What do they say about the girl's boyfriend? What impression do they have of the relationship? And most importantly, of course: does the girl seem happy with her boyfriend or has she changed in a negative way?

Girls in love often don't see the truth when it's right in front of them, because love, even supposed love, is blind. The most difficult step is therefore for the girl to recognise her mistake herself. Even if parents and friends advise her against the relationship, this can sometimes drive her straight into his arms. Only when she is convinced that he is a loser and not good for her can she be helped to end the relationship and get over it.